I’ve been scandalized by the way I see parents treated by the system. I love my son very much, but it seems all the people in the system want to do is keep us apart….. things need to change.
WHY? A lot of people wonder why I would risk arrest? A lot of times they won’t actually ask, but I can tell some think it’s crazy and ineffective. A few other people tell me I’m brave and doing good work – all I can tell them is, “the border between the Land of the Crazy and the Land of the Brave is not clearly marked and often moves...”
The Internet makes it easy to talk, but we need to act. Many believe if we explain the injustice and have documentation and are backed up by scientific facts — that we’ll get our kids back, reform will happen, and all will be well!
OUR PROBLEM. Please understand this is a Civil Rights struggle. For over a hundred years in the segregated South, if you were Black: you sat in the back of the bus, you couldn’t eat next to a White person, and you had to use a different bathroom. How much scientific research and logic did it take to understand that was WRONG?
“In all he says and does, man is obliged to follow faithfully what he knows to be just and right….” Moral Teaching
When a Black voluntarily walked to the back of the bus, peed in a different bathroom, or drank out of a different water fountain — some would have failed to follow their conscience. They would have known how wrong the system was, how denigrating it was to them and their families — but still they did it. Segregation did not go away.
Why go along if their conscience told them it was wrong? We know the answer to that one. The ‘system’ is powerful, it can throw you in jail, take your money, destroy your family. We go along, just like they did. Why?
A Failure of Faith? Because we don’t believe anything we do will matter. Why should I risk sitting in the front of the bus, when the Klan will visit me tonight and burn my house down? Better to wait….what can I do? How will that kind of sacrifice matter? I’ll so something safer….
Can we relate to that, can we see ourselves in the mirror? We want politicians to ‘champion’ our political causes because it is the ‘right thing’ — but does our personal inaction speaks louder than our words? We want people who work in the ‘system’ to buck the system — they have the same fears we do
Also understand there were plenty of good people, model citizens, church going, loving & caring — that thought that was fine!
MAKING CHANGE HAPPEN. What did it take to finally change attitudes? You can read more details here, but briefly: A small minority of Blacks (supported by others) were willing to peacefully and without anger face arrest by violating all those taboos. They suffered for what they believed in, people saw it in the News, and attitudes changed from within…
WHAT ABOUT US, WHAT CAN WE DO? They took our kids, but we can’t respond by kidnapping or by withholding child support (those actions just confirm the stereotype).
But walk around peacefully carrying a picture of your kids where they don’t want you. Chalk a message of love on pavement where they don’t like it. If we can get enough parents — it would make different & dramatic News story. We need reporters to ask Senators Schumer & Gillibrand why they are not responding — then it’s also useful!
Take the time to look at some of the historical material we have on NonViolent Action, especially the material on Dr. Martin Luther King and segregation. A Civil Rights Act passed Congress when Blacks recognized their dignity as human beings, and showed its GREAT value by their voluntary personal sacrifice. There actions changed the heart of the Nation.
It’s been a long time since America has seen a grass roots Civil Rights movement. Before we see serious reform, it will need to see another. As parents we need to act in ways that will change the heart of the Nation if we want to see a Family Rights Act passed. An Act that will recognize & protect our ability to love and nurture our kids — just as our conscience calls for.