AKidsRight.Org BLOG

The product we are selling is NOT Father’s/Men’s Rights

So many people are frustrated by politicians who just aren’t responsive. It really should be no surprise — as a group we just don’t have well defined goals and we are still working on the ‘words.’ Nothing makes this clearer than the focus on FATHER’S rights! Imagine this from America’s past, if the NAACP (National Association for the Advancement of Colored People) had been called the:

NAASCP (…Advancement of Southern Colored People)
NAANCP (…Advancement of Naturalized Colored People)

We have said this before, if ‘reform’ was your product, how would you get the most people into your store? By just saying it’s a Father’s issue!? Half of AKidsRight.Org members are moms who have been mistreated by the system. What about the ‘accused’ child abusers — that have seen social workers walk into their home and take their kids on a ‘hunch’?

What is the common thread here? They are all PARENTS whose CHILDREN were hurt by a SYSTEM that has failed to recognize and protect our GREAT CIVIL RIGHT to presumption of ‘fitness’ and EQUAL parenting. The protection of a JURY of your peers before government interferes in your family.

We are trying to fix not only a BIAS in our system of Family Law (and fathers do get ‘beaten up’ more often than mothers), but also a system that gives a single Judge or even a social worker at CPS the power to act arbitrarily for the “best interest of the child” (another reform fallacy). Obviously, most of us accept that any new law will be “gender neutral” — the problem is not one of father or mother, but for parents and children. Not only those going through a separation, but also those parents who lose their kids to Social/Child Protective Services.

The greatest weapon opponents of reform have is the ability to raise the “hot button” issue of making this a Mom v. Dad thing. But if you want to fight the battle (enjoy the following - a repeat):

“Some Men can’t even stand to look at a scene of Mother and Child happily together without some anger — b$%tch! Dirty Feminists! And we’re sure many Women have experienced the same after seeing THEIR child “taken” by a former husband… abusive control freak! Stupid Masculinist!”

“Come on, admit it you Men, deep down, you KNOW you’d be the best parent! After all, who’s the big bad hunter-gatherer! Ladies, that child came out of YOUR body — their YOURS. After all possession is 9 tenths of the law! We’re talking a biological reality here!”

Lastly, you may want to read the stories on our Hall of Shame page submitted by both mom’s and dad’s, http://www.AKidsRight.Org/shame.htm — there are some parents who just want revenge and to get their kid back. Who cares if the other parent goes through that same pain — after all, they really deserve it! Many aren’t really concerned about Human Rights or Civil Rights, just THEIR rights!